The Culture of Intimacy

May I ask the readers, those who already had a relationship: How intimate can you go with your own love partners? I assume that some are only limited to just holding hands; while others might be more passionate, and they hugged each other, they kissed, they allow their partners to touch some of the private areas of their body, and of course, the ultimate love ritual, sex.

People get very excited when they discuss about sex. It is and always is a taboo subject in the Asian countries. Just mention these three alphabets, S.E.X, and men will light up and start imagining about their encounter with women and how to get them into bed with them. But it is still not an open topic, which one leads to this curiousity: India and China are one of those countries with the most population, and yet they are also conservative when it comes to intimacy. No one is openly claiming that their sexual lifestyle is satisfying.

Still, through the studies of sexual history, dating back to 1500 years ago, warriors and kings all had happy sex lives, that keeps themselves healthy, and they are always focused on achieving their goals. There is nothing to deny that youngsters are craving for sex. With their young blood rushing around their veins, these adolescents are always full of emotion and creating new hope for the people. It is very common for girls and boys to get involved in sex after some time into their relationship. As portrayed from some Japanese comics (or more commonly known as manga), those "shojo" (meaning young girls) comics often portray girls in reality, who fall in love and are willing to give away their virginity to the man they love. The manga had shamelessly show us how much of sex that young people can have. The manga love story was a story full of passion and desire, that even after they broke up, the girls held no regret of having sex with their ex-boyfriends.

It is disturbing, but true. Those Japanese manga artists, are mocking the society. While the people still reckon that we are a clean society, deep down inside, we know the rebellious youngsters are not satisfied with sex after marriage. They wanted to try sex, knowing what sex is like. Some are not careful and end up getting pregnant, that is when the men felt that it was not a responsibility to have the baby; after all, they are just having fun. Even those women who were pregnant are not regretting their shameful ways. They themselves are not going to be responsible for their actions, that is why they abandon their babies after it was borned, leaving the newly born babies to die, or a good Samaritan to pick them up.

Come to think of it, why do people think of it as disturbing now, when the culture of sex had been practised since the ancient time? Even incest was practised. I'm not sure if everyone knew about it, but before the Queen of Egypt, Cleopatra meet the dashing Julius Caesar or the later counterpart, Marc Antony, she was married to her younger brother, who became a pharoah at the age of fourteen! She was twenty-two, and she had to marry her brother to become the Queen. If that was portrayed in the society now, people would have cry foul over the wedding or the coronation.

Religion seems to be playing a big role of it. Christianity, Buddhism, Islam, Hinduism, Judaism, all claim that sex is a sin, and that the body of a woman must remain pure until she have found her husband, whom is worthy of taking her purity as she is his wife. Sex has always been a ritual of bond between a man and a woman. That when they have sex, they are spiritually bonded together and attached as one. That is when they feel the fire of love of their partners. I'm sure this is what young couples felt whenever they had sex together, if they truly love each other. Sex with passion and just sex, is two different things. Sure, you might enjoy just having sex, achieving orgasm and leaving yourselves satisfied over the bond. But you would never feel the love, because you do not have any special feelings for that someone, just thinking that she has a sexy body. And that kind of phenomenon is what I see in the American culture.

I do not agree in couples having sex together, until they are certain of their feelings for each other. Some couples just had sex after a few months, thinking that they are going to remain like that forever, but in the end they still broke up, and the one who is going to lose, is the female side. She lost her feelings, and she lost her own purity. That's double the blow a man can have, unless it is the woman who is being manipulative. It works two ways. Not all men are perverts, and not all women are saints either. This is how complex our society is, entangled in the sin of desire, to have sex. One must becareful before giving your first time to the other. Because, who knows, if you trade the purity of your soul to the wrong person, you are bound to be in living hell.

I suggest that the society start bringing up the topic of sex instead of sweeping them under the carpet. Youngsters need to know how sex works, to be aware of the signs that they might get involved in a relationship. They have to be aware instead of accepting all the actions and signs give. Youngsters, both men and women must understand that sometimes, "No" is a good answer. There is no need to rush in having sex. Let the desire accumulate inside you. This is because, if you had found your lifetime partner, she or he is all yours and only yours truly.

Sounds kind of perverted? You do the math.

Thanks and good day.

Self knowing

Soul searching. A pilgrimage started by the juvenile devotees who tried to find and identify themselves as beings of the planets. While parents do not allow them to start when they were too young to realise the importance of being themselves, children all around the world had actually started their pilgrimage at a very young age: without their parents' consent of course.

Many of them did bizarre things as they reached adulthood. Some started low-budget travelling, where they equipped themselves with only a backpack, some clothes and off they go. Some reckon that they should bond spiritually with their gods, thus, they organised a holy pilgrimage to a shrine, and along the way, they walked barefooted, wearing barely nothing but neccessary clothing to cover their private parts and will only stop for food or sleep. Such weird actions, yet to them, it is just another way to find themselves, and hopefully God will see them and tell them who they really are.

Realising one's self is really important in different aspects of life. For those minor decisions like choosing your own style of wearing, to major decisions like accepting a multi-million dollar project, if you didn't know what do you want, you would just listen to the opinions of your peers. Then in the end, it is not you who is the decision maker, it is your peers. Sure, people might argue that they didn't want to accomplish something big in their lives, but still, all of us need to achieve something in our daily lives. It may help make our lives more meaningful, however we perceived it.

Some of the pilgrims found enlightenment very quickly, but some who are confused, got even more confused about themselves and in the end, they not only lost their identity, they got lost the whole way, unable to find their identity again. This is truly a risk taken by all teens. But some fear of them losing sight of themselves, therefore they didn't want to go on the journey of soul searching, causing them to be the "follower" instead of a "leader". Many of the young ones are unable to find their strengths and weaknesses, therefore they got conned by the society sometimes, and they didn't know about it. It is a sad case of humanity, when something so simple, and can be realised within seconds, get masked by confusion and denial.

People kept questioning why the young ones are not being active in activities that were organised by the "older" people like the government. But does the government actually know what do the young ones want nowadays? Did the government actually take the initiative to conduct activities that can help the students to realise their own self? I doubt so. The government was so engrossed in trying to upgrade their people's academic skills that the mentality was forgotten. That is why it is easy to see older people all having no manners at all, not even trying to improve themselves by language and morality. It's a shame, a very big shame. And this comes from the eyes of the 19 year old who sees people older than me jumping queues, pushing themselves into the bus, and thinking they are still the best thing in the country. Pathetic!

I understand that this is just my own perception of things. But I realise many of the young ones are still clueless on what they really want, even when they reached adulthood. It is good for the youngsters to go out and see how real the world is, and what I mean by real, is how cruel the world can be. The authority breathing down your neck everytime you make a mistake, even the minor ones, they will take into account, just to see the scumbag that we are disappear out of their sight. But if the youngsters know of their strengths, they need not be scared of those evil glares. Just continue on their job and know their priorities.

I had said my piece. I don't know how many young ones can realise that. I just do not want the world to be filled with confused young ones who do not know what they really want. Then, the world will really get themselves in trouble. This is a message to the youngsters: Know your self, go on a soul search when you are ready. What you find about yourself, you must cherish and preserve that, because those are the characteristics that makes you unique and becoming part of world.

Just to answer people's curiousity: Have I found my own self?

I'm glad to say that, I have. Because I had started searching my soul ever since I was 11 years old.

Thanks and good day.

Gen Y Cops

Generation Y! Prepare yourselves!

We are the biggest population on Earth. We are the descendants of the baby boomers. We must ensure that the world is at peace, since now it is at the brink of destruction! We must uphold our own justice, to populate our beliefs, to let them realise our truths, to understand the outcome! Yes, Generation Y, it's time for us to stand out!

Generation Y! Becareful!

Do not be blinded by those images that our predecessors had shown to us. The government is corrupted, the environment is getting bad, the mannerisms between people are getting worse. We, the Generation Y, should not be fooled by all these, instead we should stand up and fight for our status. It doesn't matter if we were laughed because of our young age. Age only matters when it comes to experience. But other than that, who are we to be afraid of the older ones if they are just a piece of trash?

Generation Y! Control yourself!

We should not rush into a conclusion before we actually do the action. We must observe and think, before we come to a decision. We have to be very careful. There are so many traps lying on the ground, just to see us get caught on it. Those hideous laughter of the older men, seeing us perish in shame and join their clan. We should not act on our emotions, but with our brain and heart. With these two combined together, anything is possible. Who makes the ridiculous rules? We make the rules, but we still break them. We are our own devil, yet we must maintain control, or not the world would be doomed.

Generation Y! Love yourself!

If no one loves you, you are responsible to love yourself. It is only when you love yourself, then you have the ability to love others. Never try suicide. Never try being depressed. Don't ever try something stupid if you are not sure. "Never try, never know" is only use for positive reinforcements, and not a good reason for you to try out things that will harm yourself, and your life. Love is always there for you, it's up to you to find it out yourself.

Are we ready Gen Y? Are we tough enough to fight the corruption of this world? Do we have a clear mind to make sure justice is served? If yes, then

GEN Y COPS! LETS MOVE!!!

Thanks and good day.